Help me, F-list-Wan Kenobi. You're my only hope.

[lumy12]

So um... I met this guy. Who is not my gorgeous married doctor. Who is, in fact, single (or so he presents himself) and who at least likes me enough to flirt with me frequently. I see him at physical therapy twice a week. He's not my therapist, but he assists her and does the equipment and stuff. At first I thought he was just flirting because it's a fun way to pass the time at work, but sometimes I get the feeling it's more than that. HMMMMM.

I don't have a fangirl celeb-crush on him like I do my doctor (whom I see in 8 days, btw, yay!) but I do enjoy seeing him and I think we'd have fun together...maybe in a friendly way? Or... I dunno, something sorta-friendly sorta-more but not all-the-way more? (yes, Deb, it's the "cat hater" guy...but he has since toned down that statement to "never really been around cats much" - !)

[Poll #1436259]

Thank you for your input, f-list!

Oh, also, FYI I'll be leaving for the mountains again Friday morning, so don't feel ignored, I'll catch up with y'all later ♥

Edited for better iconage!

Comments

[amaelgreenleaf.livejournal.com]

No need for pretending. If he doesn't like who you really are, he doesn't deserve you.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

Heh - well, it's not like I'm purposely putting on a false front... I just think, you know, he's a guy. Guys like sex. I don't think I'm willing to go there. And that seems to be the main reason people get together, so... ick.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

if he doesn't ask you, he's not that interested

That's kinda what I was thinkin' but I thought maybe that stemmed from wussiness/old-fashioned-ness.

He totally has access to my # too -- it's in my file. But of course he's not gonna call for something non-work-related, that's unethical. (no one from there has needed to call me at all, actually)

I guess I equate asking for a # with wanting sex. :|

[sweet-panda.livejournal.com]

hehehehe marwage.

[gizzi1213.livejournal.com]

Ok, my comment on Poll Question #1 is: Think positively! Maybe, just maybe, this relationship might actually work. Who can say? I can say that if you go into it with a NEGATIVE ATTITUDE, which all your options reflect, you will get a NEGATIVE RESULT.

My comment on Poll Question #2 is: Go with the moment!! Maybe when your therapy sessions start winding down you can see how things look then. Maybe schedule an appointment late in the day and ask him out to coffee as a "thank you" for being so entertaining and helping make the therapy sessions bearable?

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

1) I don't want to think so positively that I'm not being realistic, though. Most of the time I think I really have no business dating. But how much of that is being practical and how much is low self-esteem...

2) I DO have a late afternoon time next week, due to my therapy day falling on the final payroll day... but I won't be "winding down" by then, to my knowledge. Hmmmm. (they BETTER give me advance warning if I'm getting cut off prematurely by worker's comp - from what I've seen with other people, they DO know when it's their last week, though) Go with the moment... so if I chicken out, I chicken out :) Or maybe like Cat said, if he really was interested he WOULD ask me...

[darkp-hawk.livejournal.com]

You're asking Wendy to not think negatively? Is that even remotely possible?

[lela-s.livejournal.com]

Go Have fun! You deserve it! You're a great person and you deserve to go out and have a great time! If he doesn't get it he's too stupid for you anyway! You're too witty for the likes of him!

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

Awww aren't you sweet! *huggles Leah* Thank you!

He thinks I'm funny. Imagine that!!

[sweet-panda.livejournal.com]

Be you! If he likes you, then he'll like you. If not, then not. Come on, if this much of the internet can agree you're awesome when the internet can NEVER AGREE ON ANYTHING, then you can do no wrong.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

Awww, thankee <333 though I hardly think my little f-list constitutes a large portion of the interwebz :P

One part of my brain says "don't play God" and another says "but you're totally leading him on!"

[caffeinatedkate.livejournal.com]

All I can really say is, you have to do whatever you feel comfortable with.
If you feel comfortable with trying for a relationship, then try and if you don't then just talk to him in a non-flirty way and maybe you'll make a new friend but something no one should ever do is pretend to be something you're not, whatever "normal" means.

Or alternatively, ignore me because I'm really not qualified to talk about this.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

I would never ignore you! The only thing that could possibly disqualify you is your preference for icky A/O :P

Maybe I shouldn't assume that he would even want that type of relationship (except he IS male...but I've heard some of them aren't ruled by testosterone alone!). Or maybe we'd go out once and it would be too weird not having the therapy backdrop and that would be that.

[darkp-hawk.livejournal.com]

Wendy, you're a wuss. Give everything a chance at least once; baby steps.

I did the poll even though you wouldn't want to do what I think. Neesha believes I'm evil after all.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

How do you know I wouldn't want to? I'm absorbing all responses. LIKE A SPONGE.

[queen-meep.livejournal.com]

What's wrong with hanging out with a guy? Like others have said... one day at a time.

wenchcat said it best. If he doesn't ask you, he's not that interested. Guys don't play stupid games like women do. There ARE the occasional few that are too afraid to ask for numbers, but really, do we need to bother with the ones that aren't that grown up yet? We should all listen to the movie "He's Just Not That Into You"- it's generally right!

Give him a few openings. If he's interested, he'll ask. If he's not, he won't. If he does... what's wrong with having a little bit of fun? No what-ifs beyond the first what-if.

Because what-if you *gasp* have fun?

And I mean... the... movie & buttered popcorn kinda fun... or the check-out-that-new-sushi-joint kinda fun :P

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

do we need to bother with the ones that aren't that grown up yet?

Ahaha, I had a crush on one of those, ages ago when I didn't know how weird I was. I decided to just try to be friends with him for a while first, and we went out a couple times... he was painfully shy, it was really hard to get to know him. He never made any moves at all. It was frustrating. (hey, maybe I should call him NOW! HAHAHA)

Thanks, Jenny ♥ We'll see how it goes. I'm not saying his name on here but I assure you, it does NOT start with a "J." That's promising, eh? :D

[frostbit-sky.livejournal.com]

I don't know what else to add that already hasn't been said.

If he asks you, go out and have fun. Doesn't have to be romantic. :)

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

I hope it's NOT romantic...maybe... haha, I don't think it would be romantic-romantic, cuz he doesn't seem the type. But in my experience, that type = the biggest jerks anyhow.

[ansketil-rose.livejournal.com]

Pretty much everything's been said here on the advice front but I'll add my two cents.

If you have to work too hard, don't do it. A relationship should BE FUN! So just go out and have some fun with the world with/without this guy. ^_^

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

Fun with the world... with a perfect Luna icon! Hee!
I try ♥

[laariii.livejournal.com]

i have no idea. i mean really i have no advice to give. Don't know why I'm commenting here except to say that thats the reason i didn't answer the quiz.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

That's fine ♥ Honestly, I do wonder sometimes why people don't answer polls. Did they simply miss the post? Do they think I'll judge them somehow for giving their opinion? Do they think it's too dumb to bother with? Can they not be arsed to take 5 seconds to fill them out? Do they secretly hate me and wonder if they should cut me off their f-list?

Or do they just not know what to say! :)

[aaronisthebest.livejournal.com]

There's a major problem here. The odds are VERY good that this dude is nowhere near as wonderful as your last boyfriend. Thta might be in the back of your head subconsciously as you continue forward?

[aaronisthebest.livejournal.com]

But maybe he could spell 'that' right, though.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

That's the weird thing - I don't know if I'm interested in "that" way. I'm thinking that this wouldn't be an issue at all if I were nicely 100% asexual. *angst & woe*

[azur-dreams.livejournal.com]

a. lie and act normal. everyone else is doing it. i dont have sex w anyone either but i will still waste their time and let me buy me stuff.. that's what they get for wanting things from me right lol. i am too afraid to come right out and flirt w anybody but i will kind of give them openings. like maybe you could mention you go to a lot of baseball games or something and he might as to come with you. but i'd never ask anyone out myself. you got to play it close to the vest like Capn' Jack. and no tears no matter what!

[azur-dreams.livejournal.com]

gah can you tell ive been watching youtube for hours in a too much thai food delirium, every word is spelled wrong!