More night posting!

[lumy12]

I know, I know... what the heck is Early Bird Wendy doing up at 1am???

The evile Facebook is to blame this time. Jeez, I've been on there 3 weeks and I have more internal drama than years' worth of LJ. (I say "internal" because I haven't participated in any actual drama there)

I'm happy to say that I did bring some people together, old coworkers at my theatre... and we ended up starting a group. I am co-admin. I guess there's an option on FB not to have your name come up in searches? Because I looked for this one ex before just out of curiosity and didn't find him, but now he's surfaced and I see he's been on FB for a while so it's not like he just joined. So he requested membership to this group, as did the bitch he left me for, and his stepdaughter (who actually was pretty cool). I could have just let the requests sit but I thought nah, maybe if I'm the one who approves, it'll be empowering or something. *shrug* Anyway, they did know a lot of the same people so they SHOULD be part of the group, I just... really wish they wouldn't be.

And this is old shit - water under the bridge. I've been "over it" for like 10 years. But seeing their names on the screen, seeing them post things to the group... it feels sooo weird.

One of our mutual friends 'suggested' that I add him as a friend. Wonder if this friend sent the same suggestion to the ex? Did he forget that things did not end well? I have no idea how any of them feel about me, I'm not sure how I feel about them (I thought I was apathetic but I'm clearly not)... hmmmmm. I guess ignoring them would be best? His name keeps popping up on my news feed telling me which of my friends he's now friends with. FB is so creepy like that.

Why am I even thinking about this stuff now?

I really just need to take like, a week off from the internet, huh.

Comments

[tash-dragon.livejournal.com]

Having an ex friended on facebook is pretty much the most awkward thing ever, imo. D:

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

Hmmm, no request, I suppose there won't be one then. Well, good. Maybe they all think I'm bitter. (maybe I AM bitter. hmph!) Or maybe they're mulling it over still.

I shouldn't worry about it, I suppose. Do you have exes on yours? :(

[tash-dragon.livejournal.com]

Yeh, if they don't add you, don't worry about it.

Two. Thankfully one doesn't use it much, and the other I'm still friends with.

[emavalexis.livejournal.com]

Yep, and stuff like this is exactly the reason why I deactivated my Facebook account almost as soon as I caved to the pressure to start one (and it reeeeeeally pisses me off that one can't just delete an account altogether, unless there's some elaborate procession of hoops through which to jump that I'm not privy to). I don't want to reconnect with anyone from my past that I'm not still in touch with on my own, you know? And yeah, I've heard that you can make shit as private or whatever as you want, but I don't know. I have zero interest in it, and I'm already distracted enough in my online time without adding to it. Hehe.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

Oh I didn't know you actually had one, I thought you were anti- like me! ('til I caved) It SAYS you can deactivate your account...

I have most of my stuff as friends only, and I'd already decided I wasn't going to post anything angsty or extremely personal over there, what with relatives and other RL people watching. I feel so much more comfortable on LJ! But FB is fun too. I just need to get over the "everyone else is soooo much happier and more successful than me!" thing, because yeah, some of them are, but some of them aren't. I AM happy for a few of the people I've reconnected with who are truly friends ♥

[gizzi1213.livejournal.com]

This is why I do not get a facebook account. I have no interest in connecting with people I've lost contact with. If there is any particular person I want to find/reconnect with, there are other ways to go about locating them. Living people are as easy to find as dead people, if you know how to look!

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

Haha, the only thing I know to do to find them is Google! And I HAVE googled some of these folks for years and found nothing. So I'm grateful for that.

Some people do use FB the way we use LJ: not just for fun stuff but as an online support system. I don't need to do that, I have you guys! And the night passed without a friend request from any of those 3 so maybe I'm "safe" now.

[minimery.livejournal.com]

I go through phases where facebook really gets to me. It's weird seeing all these people you "know" and reading about their lives in ways you normally wouldn't know about. I do like being able to be in contact with my family and such on facebook, but sometimes it's just more weird/odd emotional than anything. So yeah, I totally understand what you're saying!! Hope you're able to find a balance there!

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

Thank you! Much easier to keep up with people that way than individually emailing or calling everyone, but there's a disconnect there too BECAUSE it's not as personal. I remember when I first joined LJ I wanted everyone I knew to be on it, then I found that I preferred being more anonymous on here and talking to "strangers." So yay for LJ not going mainstream?

I ignore most of the stuff that pops up on my news feed. I really don't feel compelled to leave gushy comments about people's cute kids and whatnot if I barely remember them from 20 years ago. And these 3 people... I suppose I'd take the high road if they initiated contact but I don't think I care to make the first move. It's not like I ever got an apology (from the ex... the other 2 really don't owe me one) and yes there's stuff I could apologize for too but HE got the happy ending and I didn't so... yeah. Awkward.

[lela-s.livejournal.com]

I think you should just go with your original assumption that facebook is EVIIIILLLL! I think that would work for you!

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

It really is! But maybe that's part of the reason why I like it too, lol

[darkp-hawk.livejournal.com]

...As much as I dislike to agree with you, FB isn't something you can post for support like LJ does; FB has far too many RL people who will come knock on your door if they think you need it.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

*gasp* You AGREE with me??? Wow, how does it feel? Does it hurt? Are you okay???

lolz

[ansketil-rose.livejournal.com]

I use facebook because people invite me to things through it. However, I find it boring and annoying in equal measure. I'd rather hang out here with my lj friends where I can talk about interesting fandom stuff and read things - facebook feels like reading everyone's random angst (that you don't care about because you met said person once or twice) and hourly mind-burps.

You can look me up if you wish, though.

[darkp-hawk.livejournal.com]

I could look you up on facebook too! However, I won't b/c FB is filled with people I know in real life and I really don't care to explain how I know some people.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

The angst I usually see on there (with the exception of a few more deeply angsty friends) goes as deep as "Wah I'm tired" - nothing thought-provoking. I think I should lay a little lower than I have been so I can kinda phase out of checking it all the damn time.

One GOOD thing is I haven't stalked the Boy since Friday. Yay?

Haha, "hourly mind-burps" - that's a good way of putting it! Some burps are more interesting than others, but all in all it's just frivolous pointless shit. I hide everything related to one of the dumb games or giving hugs or smiles or anything cheesy like that. (the games MIGHT interest me if they didn't involve "credits" and trading crap with your friends! I want my SOLITARY games plzkthx)

[caffeinatedkate.livejournal.com]

Facebook isn't private enough for my liking. I've looked at it and as far as I can tell you have to put your full name on it which is something I Do Not do online. (Actually, no one who I know in real-life even knows I have an LJ.)

Was this ex the one you got Pants from?

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

You could give yourself a bogus name (that's what Aaron did) - I decided not to since I mostly use it for RL people who know my name anyway. You can hide all your posts, photos, and profile from the public if you want. I guess there's some debate about how "private" all that stuff actually is but I can't be bothered to look into that. I have nothing to hide! except my feelings which I dump on here instead, lolz

And yes, that's the one! Wow you have a great memory!

[nelliedrum.livejournal.com]

OMG! You have no idea how excited I am that you're on FB!
I requested you!
Anyway,
It's really not that bad. You can make it very private if you want, no one is going to get any personal information about you. They just say that because dumb people give too much info about their personal lives and their address/phone etc. Just don't be stupid!
Also, it's so much better to see pictures and updates, you really get to know people! YAY! And it can be confusing at first, but you'll get used to it!
<3

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

Added you! Don't get TOO excited, I'm TRYING not to use it that much.

But yeah, people shouldn't be announcing when they go on vacation to the world at large (duh, not too hard to find you when you have your name and city on there). I have all my stuff, what little of it there is, protected :)

[karinablack.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean ;)
My ex is all over FaceBook.

Did you know, if you block them they disappear? It's MAGIC! :D

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

I feel like I should only block him if he harrasses me, which he's not. If he wants to message me with an apology, I'd be receptive to that.

...okay so yeah, I live in Fantasy Land, the weather's nice here!

Did he REALLY have to comment on a group post "I'll be home soon, sweetheart" - really?!?! Ugh. But if I do the "mark as irrelevant" thing I'd be a bitch, of course.

[azur-dreams.livejournal.com]

oic!! i just tried to add you ther.

[lumy12.livejournal.com]

OMG... you're on there with your REAL NAME? Will wonders never cease! :D Added you! I still use LJ more though so don't expect too much from me :)